The Trauma Blueprint Explained
The Trauma Blueprint is an individual blueprint of our unhealed trauma. It is a prescription for how we see the world when we are looking through unhealed eyes. It dictates our unconscious beliefs that become our conscious behaviour. It is a ‘blueprint’ of all of the experiences in our lives that have left a negative imprint on us.
Our blueprint distorts what is true and creates an unhealthy narrative around what we see. Our lens becomes foggy and we are unable to see things clearly. Whether that’s what someone says, their actions, how people feel about us, or most importantly, how we feel about ourselves.
What is inside of us is what ends up coming out. If you bump a person holding a cup of coffee, coffee will spill out of the cup because that is what is inside. If you bump a person who is angry, the response you will get is anger, because that is what is inside.
Nothing anyone does truly has anything to do with you, not really. We are operating from our own internal system of emotions and working from our own personal blueprint. When someone reacts to you, they are actually reacting to their OWN interpretation of what happened, which can be a cocktail of many things. This is how we have such massive misunderstandings.
Have you ever said something to someone meaning one thing, only for them to take it a COMPLETELY different way and not at ALL get your point of view, or worse, get mad or offended? This is because they absorbed the information and interpreted it through their personal blueprint.
Each and every one of us have experienced some kind of trauma throughout our lives. Some we are aware of, some we are not, some we have worked through, some we have not. This is why every person is so different. You can have ten people go through the same experience with completely different perspectives on the shared experience. We never truly know how someone will process something.
Trauma And Food Addiction
How this relates to food addiction is simple. The blocked emotions based on the unhealed experiences need to be expressed somewhere. When we look at addiction in ANY form, it is something we do in spite of adverse consequences, in response to certain emotions.
We are either running towards or away from an emotion or both. During my drug addiction, I was desperately trying to feel connected and loved (towards emotions) and trying to avoid feeling lonely and hollow (away from emotions). The only reason I stopped abusing drugs was because I knew I would die if I didn’t. I stopped out of necessity, not because I healed the emotional dysfunction.
This is why people who struggle with bad eating patterns like emotional eating, binge eating and so on get so stuck. They are trying constantly to fix what is going on at the surface level, when the real driving force is deep beneath the surface. They get a personal trainer or nutritionist or simply start making changes on their own. They start to see some progress and feel good, but soon get triggered emotionally and fall back into old patterns.
They have made changes out of necessity, as I did when I was abusing drugs, and not because they healed what got them to that point in the first place.
Understanding what your triggers and what they are trying to tell you is the first step in the process of healing and overcoming. Redirecting yourself is only a temporary fix and will not cure the impulsive and compulsive behaviour attached to food addiction. Some questions to ask when you catch yourself in a bad habit loop like a binge etc are:
What might have triggered this response?
What emotions am I trying to avoid right now?
What emotions am I trying to feel right now?
Where might these emotions be coming from?
When we allow ourselves to get curious about our behaviour we can start to track it, understand it, and heal the emotional pain underneath that is driving the behaviour. We become our own detectives and simply observe what we're doing without the attachment to it.
This is how we discover our trauma blueprint and truly begin to heal. Once we heal we can remove the addiction from our lives and become whole once again, as were always meant to be.
Always remember that you are the one who is in control of your RESPONSE to life. You get to choose how you WANT to see things. This happens when we heal, release, and allow ourselves to see things more clearly. If you feel you may suffer from a food addiction or would like to learn more about your trauma blueprint, you can book a zero pressure discovery call to learn more.